The Marriage Course 5

One of the most important tasks to work on in a marriage is boundaries. In the fifth part of The Marriage Course, we’re talking about setting boundaries and how to handle problems with boundaries. If I do not know my own and my partner’s boundaries, the risk is that we hurt each other. Where I put my limits is often connected with childhood and personality. If someone crosses my limits, I can feel aggrieved – without always understanding why.

My responsibility is to determine what is inside my fence. What I am responsible for. What my boundaries are:

  1. My own feelings and my behavior
  2. My own attitudes and choices
  3. My own beliefs and values
  4. My own thoughts and limitations
  5. My reactions towards others
  6. My own abilities and desires
  7. My love and my hopes
  8. How do I use my time, my energy and my money

God wants us to persuade to lovingly tell the truth to the one we have a relationship with (Galatians 6: 1-5). However, the fact remains that most of us have trouble with boundaries. Either problem with setting boundaries, problem with keeping them or problem to respect the boundaries that others have set up. In the list below we give examples of different forms of boundary problems:

Permissiveness
To say “yes” to the bad, by not setting limits or say “no”.

Avoidance
Saying “no” to the good by not asking for, or accepting help.

Control Needs
Failure to respect the boundaries of others, and not respect the consequences properly.

Insensitivity to others
Not to hear the needs of others, and therefore ignore the obligation to love.

At TheWebChurch.in we want to encourage you to listen carefully to every message we publish on this site. Except nothing without “searching The Scriptures” (Act 17:11). The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 5:21-23 and 1 Corinthians 13:9-13:

“Prove all things and hold fast that which is good. Abstain from every form of evil, and let the God of peace Himself sanctify you wholly. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect is come, that which is in part shall be done away. For now we see in a mirror, darkly. But then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part, but then shall I know fully, even as also I was fully known. But now abideth Faith, Hope and Love – these three. And the greatest of these is Love!”

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/Tomas and Maria

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